The Love You Deserve

Steven Chbolksy wrote in The Perks of Being a Wallflower, “We accept the love we think we deserve.” 

It’s true.  Somehow we learn to draw limits around the love we will accept.  These limits are not imposed upon us.  We impose these limits on ourselves with our thoughts about deserving.

The love we think we deserve is different than the love we actually deserve.

The love you actually deserve is complete, unconditional and unabashed.  You have deserved this kind of love from the moment of your birth, if not before.

You may deny yourself this level of allegedly unearned love.  You may struggle with deserving as you remind yourself of your perceived inadequacies – the things you have done or the things you haven’t done; all you are and all you are not.

If you feel unworthy of love, consider a newborn baby, a kitten, a puppy, or a flower.  You wouldn’t deny love to any of these divine beings.  Why should your true self be any less deserving?

Not only do we accept the love we think we deserve…We accept the help we think we deserve.  We accept the success we think we deserve.  We accept the solutions we think we deserve.  We accept the innocence we think we deserve.

We have set up arbitrary rules to determine how much good we deserve.

In the realms of grace, deserving doesn’t enter into the equation.

You have already been given love, help, success, solutions and innocence.

It’s time to suffer the indignity of letting go of merit-based perceptions.  It’s time to go unconditional and deserve because you exist.

Infinite good exists for you. 

Will you deserve it?  Will you accept it?  Will you receive it? 

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8 Responses to The Love You Deserve

  1. Dot says:

    Once again you seem to be affirming just what I need at just the right time.
    Your words continue to be part of a deep healing in my memory of Who I am. So much love and gratitude for you Bonnie.❤️


  2. becky burnham says:

    I love “It’s time to go unconditional”!


  3. nocrackpot says:

    I needed to hear this today. Thank you.


  4. Sherrill Dodge says:

    These words continue to do a deep healing within my heart and remind me that I am deserving and that if I could let myself except that I am lovable I will then be able to except the love that the world so wants to give. I read the Perks of Being A Wallflower and LOL it is the first book I’ve finished reading in a long, long time. The book has very simple words (sometimes we need simple words because we often make things more complicated than they should be to us) really hit home to me and made very positive impact on my thinking.

    Thank you Rev Bonnie your the Best!


    • Bonnie says:

      Dear Sherrill, so glad your heart is healing and you are remembering the truth about YOU. I look forward to reading the Wallflower book. I never read it, just know the quote. Love, Bonnie


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