What If I Can’t Let Go?



I have a picture of our dog Bartok here, because sometimes people ask me if his name is Klingon.  It’s not.  Bartok is a Vizsla, and Vizlsa’s are Hungarian.  He is named for Bela Bartok, a Hungarian composer.

All that aside, I wonder about Klingons, the concept of Clinging On.

I remember when our dog Stella passed away.  This was an unwelcome change in our family.  I was crushed.  I didn’t feel very spiritual about anything, despite the fact that I work in a church.

At the time, I wondered if I maybe should move through the grief a little faster.   I wondered if I should be better at letting go.

We all cling-on from time to time.  Some of the things we cling to may be truly important –such as loved ones; or values like justice, peace and harmony; or a goal or plan that will make a difference in our lives.

Should we even consider letting go of these things?   If so, how do we navigate the maze of when to hold on and when to let go?

There is something to be said for this paradox:  even letting go of a good thing offers mystical power.  Clinging repels, letting go attracts.  You receive what you release.

But even beyond that, here’s a concept that will help:  You can always let go of something.  The action of letting go is more important than the object of letting go. 

When you can’t let go, let go of the need to let go.  Letting go of the inability to let go, is still letting go.

Meditate – Center and find a story or an opinion that you cling to.  Can you let go of the need to let go? 

Practice – Throughout the day, notice unwillingness towards letting go.  Let go of the need to let go.      

Advanced Practice – Tell a friend what you discovered through the practice of letting go of the need to let go.  Remember, the action is more important than the object.

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