Invisible Service Made Visible

My husband and I have a lot of animals so I spend a lot of time at our local feed store.  The one I visit is run by a family with four children under the age of sixteen.  The kids are home schooled so they help out at the store  It’s not unusual to have their thirteen-year old daughter ring up your Rabbit Feed; or to have their fifteen-year old son forklift a bale of hay over to your car.

I’ve talked to their parents about this.  “Your kids are getting quite an education here, right?  I mean not only are they learning about math and writing.   You’re helping them develop business and customer service skills.  That’s an amazing gift you’re giving them.” Continue reading

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Does Kindness Cure White Fragility?

Lately, I’ve been considering the term “white fragility.” I looked it up.  My understanding is that many white people are hypersensitive about being accused of being racist, even though we are by default.  We unconsciously use our outrage over being named racist as a method of bullying so that people of other-than-white races can’t express their real concerns around us.  I feel that.

I think about my next-door neighbors.  I live in a community that is 85% Hispanic.  I think my neighbors are from Mexico, but I’m afraid to ask.  I’m afraid of the look on Alejandro’s face, when he perceives that I may name him unwelcome or judge him because of his heritage.  This is my fragility.  Friendliness and curiosity stall because of an assumed, quite possibly unfounded prediction. Continue reading

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The Path of Reconciliation…

Dear Friends, 

This is a repost of an article I wrote for ServiceSpace.  

Sweet are the uses of adversity. –Shakespeare
Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. – Rumi

Reality goes by many names – God, Spirit, The Absolute, Love, The Tao, Awareness, The Universe. Reality is perfect, meaning inclusive of everything. Reality is an unfettered field “out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing.”

Opposites arise in the field – good, bad, darkness, light, joy, sorrow. These qualities arise in concert, each a complement to the other. But the human brain struggles with opposites. We attach to one side of an equation and call it Reality. Our point of view is never the whole picture. Continue reading

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